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  1. Denise Zalaski
    April 14, 2017 @ 06:59

    An experience of a lifetime and so much to soak in. So much admiration I have for you facing your fears. Yet there can be so much to gain when we do:-) All that you have shared thus far is simply priceless. I envy your courage, Timmy.
    Take good care and safe travels!
    Denise (Nisi)

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:01

      Thanks, Denise. I still draw on Jeannine’s courage and “talk” to her all the time. She was fearless!

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  2. Diane Weisman
    April 14, 2017 @ 08:26

    Tim, this may be embarrassing for you, but I have to say it, “I just love you”! I just read about some of your fears, and I want to share something with you and your other friends.
    When I was in high school, I read a book, “Jonathan Livingston Seagull.” It’s a very short read, but it’s filled with wonderful and inspirational thoughts. One quote I used in part under my senior photo, I still remember it to this day.
    “All the people and events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” Even though there are times when I’m extremely shy, normally when I fear that I may harshly judged by someone this doesn’t alway ring true. For the most part, about 97% of the time, I think the way I make eye contact with someone and smile, or make a comment while waiting for something is because of the positive energy I feel from the other person. I use my gut instinct always. I met you in a chance encounter at SCSU. You were visiting, and I was dealing with a friend in crisis. Our first conversation was in the lobby of an all girls dorm, and I had just called for medical help for someone. Total chance encounter. It was helpful that I was friends with Kathy I have to admit. Within no time for following year when you started college, our friendship began.
    You have a very warm, sincere, and calming energy about you. I’ll bet that the most of the people you have forced yourself to go up and talk to, have thought about you more than once, especially, being a traveling American. I haven’t travelled alone abroad recently, but I did a lot in my early twenties. American’s, many times, carry with them a negative misconceived opinion from strangers. Many times I wish I could say I was Canadian when I travel. Though, I never have, the thought has crossed my mind many times due to a feeling of fear or being judged harshly. However, telling the truth when asked has always worked out, with the exception of returning an overdone steak in London in a restaurant. Or course, it didn’t help that I was with my Scottish friend was absolutely traumatized. The steak could have arrived in flames and she still would have accepted it graciously. The waitress said, ” You’re an American aren’t you.” I said yes, and politely said I wanted a steak I could eat. What was worse is I walked out with my friend bright red. However, to this day I still have the fake mustache I was given at the authentic fish and chips shop that we wound up at where they gave you a plastic mustache and had an hourly sing along. Best fish and chips ever, and one of my friends and my favorite memories.
    You have forced yourself to grow in so many ways, that you will be an even better teacher and friend than you were when you left for this great adventure, and you were already fantastic!!! Stay safe.

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:04

      Thank you, my friend! Not at all embarrassed (that’s one of the fears I’m giving up). I enjoy reading your memories – maybe you should start a blog.

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  3. Shannon Atkinson
    April 14, 2017 @ 08:51

    Tim, congratulations on facing your fears! Thank you for sharing this. It was pleasure meeting you and having the opportunity to photograph in Vietnam with you. Cheers!

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:07

      Likewise, Shannon. I’ve definitely learned a lot from spending time with you and other photographers. Looking forward to the next time, whenever that may be.

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  4. Valentin
    April 14, 2017 @ 09:03

    Wonderful story! The fear of not pursuing your dreams- well put Tim!

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:09

      Thanks, Val. It’s been quite a journey for both of us since Washington. Looks like you’ve been very busy in India.

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  5. Lori
    April 14, 2017 @ 09:40

    You are an inspiration, Tim!!!! We miss you!

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:10

      Thank you, Lori. I’ll be home soon, but you might not recognize the new fearless Tim!

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  6. Li nda A Wight
    April 14, 2017 @ 11:25

    Great story and inspiration Tim. Sometimes I have fears about what others think of me, which is silly, and sometimes I have fears because others depend on me, which is silly;there is always someone to take our place, and then I put it in God’s hands- that doesn’t always mean, I still don’t have fears, but it’s a good feeling. As always- you’re a great teacher and I’ve enjoyed your journey and learning about the people and places you are visiting. Happy Easter Tim, stay well. Linda

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:12

      I have also realized how so many of us have the same fears. It does make it easier somehow. Happy Easter to you and your family, Linda!

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  7. Don Dillon
    April 14, 2017 @ 19:08

    Really enjoyed our time together during the Hanoi photo workshop. And, I remember the two women in red. Great image!

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:12

      Thanks, Don. I still think the morning with you and Eric was a turning point. I’ll never forget it!

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  8. Vicky Ann Deledda
    April 14, 2017 @ 23:54

    Loved your friend,Diane’s comment and I also loved the Seagull book- read it to my 5th graders. Glad you’re back on “blog”!
    My only question is, “What ya hit the spider with? Xo

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:14

      I usually call McTery, but he was in bed so I used a broom. It took many attempts. You would have laughed at the sight.

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  9. Paula Agins
    April 15, 2017 @ 06:22

    You amaze me!

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 07:15

      🙂

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  10. Kate Gluth Richie
    April 15, 2017 @ 08:43

    Well hello Timmy Flanagan, my sweet friend from St. Mary’s! I loved reading your post! Oh the hours and experiences we’ve all lost by fearing one thing or another! Kudos on shedding your fears; you’ve inspired me to do some of the same!
    Safe travels and have a wonderful Easter!

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    • Tim Flanagan
      April 15, 2017 @ 22:28

      Hello Katie! So nice to hear from you. You’re so right – living in fear is just a waste of time. I think I spent most of my St. Mary’s days in fear (at least during class)! There are no marshmallow peeps here in Cambodia, so it doesn’t feel like Easter, but they did celebrate New Year’s yesterday. All my best to your family and have a great Easter!

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